How to Rise in Love to Life's Challenges

I recently completed an unbelievably healing retreat in Ubud, the magical, spiritual epicenter in Bali. The conscious community, lush green landscapes, friendly monkeys, ancient temples, local organic food, captivated me and welcomed me home. It was an honor to teach yoga and mindfulness alongside Sarah Anne Stewart. If you haven’t met her yet, Sarah radiates pure love as a wellness guide, healing others with holistic, integrative therapies for a healthy lifestyle. Her practice, Holistically Slim, focuses on maintaining your health without deprivation, but using mindfulness practices and eating according to your bio-individuality. We are already planning our next retreat in 2017, in Costa Rica and Tulum, if you are interested, let me know!

While in Bali, we celebrated their Balinese new year followed by a day of silence. I spent the day in solitude, listening to the birds and the river stream, with a quiet yoga practice, meditation and journaling thoughts as they came up. it was a unique experience and I would like to incorporate more days of silence into my normal routine.

As I sat with my quieted my mind, I listened, and noticed some fear based thinking. I had been traveling and was feeling worried about my situation when I return to New York… where I will live, how I will shift my business and serve the world, etc. I had even lost my cool at the airport enroute to Bali. I was trying to carry-on some pumpkin-seed butter to snack on, and was told it counted as a ‘liquid.’ (yes, we all know that Pumpkin seeds are NOT a liquid, but they insisted it was a ‘jam-like’ food and was not allowed.) Anyways, I was anxious, hungry and then I allowed the situation, which was not a big deal, to really upset me. I got very angry and then when I sat in the airplane, felt very sad at my anger, and began to cry. That is when I realized that this was simply bringing up a deeper, fearful feeling that I was not in control of my life. And in reality, all of us can only control our actions and choices. This situation was simply a teacher -- I chose a negative reaction instead of a more graceful one. I sat with these fearful emotions on the plane, and shifted my mindset to accepting what comes and trusting that I can handle it. I sat with the feeling that I cannot control every circumstance in my life, but I can control how gracefully I respond to whatever life gives me. {WOW} With that, I let my breath sooth me back into a calm, peaceful state.

Anger, negativity and fearful thoughts are normal for EVERYONE, and they are going to come up. But, it is just as easy to spiral down a dark rabbit hole as it is to climb up to the peak of the mountain top. So friends, let’s chose to climb! Let's chose to rise in Love!

The trick is to catch the negative thoughts or emotions, notice them and change directions. Sometimes we let the negative thoughts snow ball, continue to consume us, then we continue down a dark path. Just because you have a negative thought, a bad day, or go into a fear-based mind-set, does not mean that you have to see that emotion through. Simply pause, feel it and then shift directions. Here are a few steps to do that: 

Breath: Stop whatever you are doing and find a quiet place. Take a few slow, deep breaths
Notice: Notice exactly why you are upset, angry or anxious, and any underlying beliefs or past experiences that may be causing it (maybe even journal about it)
Accept: Whatever has come into your life, accept that you cannot change the past circumstance, only your response to it
Freedom: Bring your attention to all the areas of freedom, possibility and support you currently have in your life. 
Create: Dwell in your wishes and desires and note any small, next steps to create them
Love: Visualize yourself in a state of love, peace and in control of every single one of your actions
Feel: Notice how much lighter your body feels when you are in this state of acceptance, peace and love

Here is a simple mantra you can use to shift your thoughts and your energy from fear to love:

I chose to rise & meet this challenge with love, rather than focus on what I cannot change


  • accept what you cannot control

  • listen to your emotional state

  • chose a loving resonse in every situation

  • trust yourself

  • chose love over fear

REMINDER: Sarah and I are already planning our next sunny retreat….in Central America!! (Tulum & Costa Rica)… so if you are interested, let us know by sending an email!

In Love,