How Truly Listening is Healing


I'm writing you from Sag Harbor where I'm finishing up an advanced training module on Yoga Therapeutics. Among all the anatomy, meridian points and mudras, we're also learning about being present so the practitioner, the student, can also be present and heal. 

There is an art of creating space for someone to be seen that allows for connection, transformation and healing. When we are too focused on "fixing" someone, we can't really help them. So in our efforts to "fix", we try to use what we know, rather than simply listening to what they need. You cannot help someone without being relaxed and listening to them. Even if you think you can offer someone advice, it won't be received if you're not connecting. Have you ever met someone who would not shut up about a point, but no-one in the room was listening? They think it's all about them showing off their knowledge, but there's two people in all communication. You have to connect to the human in front of you.


 It's important, especially as teachers or healers, to consider stories and energy we receive every day that can block us from being unbiased wither others. Every moment is an opportunity to learn something from the people around you. Even if you don't particularly like a person, try to remove the story you have about them, and really just see them. 

Many people in our modern busy lifestyle and single households suffer from not being seen or heard. If you really want to connect with someone, just offer a kind attention for them to share. After all, isn't attention one of the biggest ways to show love?

The same is absolutely true for yourself. You can't listen and know yourself if you're always doing. You must take time to sit quietly with yourself and notice what's true for you, otherwise emotions, stories, desires will stay repressed. Stuck emotions cannot release without acknowledgement. And for those of you who feel uninspired in relationships or business, listen. Allowing yourself space to be, opens up channels for clarity. It opens up channels to self healing and love to mature.

My therapeutic work is sitting with my clients while they share and process what's making them feel blocked from peace, love, safety, connection, success, security, by really listening and working with what's present for them at the moment.