Truly Listening to Someone is Healing


I'm writing you from Sag Harbor where I'm finishing up an advanced training module on Yoga Therapeutics. Among all the anatomy, meridian points and mudras, we're also learning about being present so the practitioner, the student, can also be present and heal. 

There is an art of creating space for someone to be seen that allows for connection, transformation and healing. When we are too focused on "fixing" someone, we can't really help them. So in our efforts to "fix", we try to use what we know, rather than simply listening to what they need. You cannot help someone without being relaxed and listening to them. Even if you think you can offer someone advice, it won't be received if you're not connecting. Have you ever met someone who would not shut up about a point, but no-one in the room was listening? They think it's all about them showing off their knowledge, but there's two people in all communication. You have to connect to the human in front of you.


 It's important, especially as teachers or healers, to consider stories and energy we receive every day that can block us from being unbiased wither others. Every moment is an opportunity to learn something from the people around you. Even if you don't particularly like a person, try to remove the story you have about them, and really just see them. 

Many people in our modern busy lifestyle and single households suffer from not being seen or heard. If you really want to connect with someone, just offer a kind attention for them to share. After all, isn't attention one of the biggest ways to show love?

The same is absolutely true for yourself. You can't listen and know yourself if you're always doing. You must take time to sit quietly with yourself and notice what's true for you, otherwise emotions, stories, desires will stay repressed. Stuck emotions cannot release without acknowledgement. And for those of you who feel uninspired in relationships or business, listen. Allowing yourself space to be, opens up channels for clarity. It opens up channels to self healing and love to mature.

My therapeutic work is sitting with my clients while they share and process what's making them feel blocked from peace, love, safety, connection, success, security, by really listening and working with what's present for them at the moment.




Say NO to Plastic Straws

8 million metric tons of plastic end up in our oceans, and that figure could increase by ten-fold over the next 10 years if actions are not taken. One metric ton equals 2,205 pounds.)
— Time Magazine

Last weekend, I went to a dance party at the PS1 WarmUp at the MOMA museum in Queens for some Reggae dance vibes. Always a good time dancing up there! 

In prep for the festivities, I tossed a small glass jar and metal straw in my handbag, Because I keep hearing how devastating plastic is to our planet. I'm not perfect but I want to make a positive impact every day. Every little thing you do makes an impact as the domino affect happens and more people wake up.

Most plastic is NOT recycled. Americans discard 33 million tons of plastic each year, but only 6.5 % of it is recycled & 7.7 % is combusted for electricity. The rest is clogging landfills and our ocean. It takes 10 lifetimes decompose. 😲
Unless you are at a sustainable cafe that composts all their dining wear, it's plastic! Shout to those sustainable Restos like @sweetgreen and @ocafenyc for Using all compostable dining wear.

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    Pic: Sipping lemonade at the @momaps1 with my reusable gear I had tossed in my bag. Say no to plastic straws. Use these cute metals one's like this one. 

    Other ways to help our environment:

    • Don't buy plastic water bottles. Instead reuse a metal or glass water bottle.
    • Use sustainable, reusable or compostable materials
    • Compost all food waste
    • Recycle or reuse anything that isn't reusable or compostable especially plastic bags
    • Try and have a Zero Waste policy for your home
    • Replace paper towels with reusable cotton wash cloths
    • Purchase less and opt for used items when possible. Try to buy, re-sell or donate old items
    • Buy digital or used books or visit the Library
    • Carry reusable mugs, straws and cutlery when necessary
    • Avoid chemicals and toxic cleaning materials and dispose properly

    This website has all the best detailed tips on how to recycle, compost and live more sustainably!

    let's be good to earth! start bringing a reusable metal straw, a glass mason jar or reusable water bottle. Or ask for washable Dish wear if you're dining in.

    Be a voice!! Be the change! 😘✌🏼🌱  Be cool to the planet y'all 🌱🌏 ✌🏼 

    -- D